Expect Failure!

Learning is the process of gaining experience to tackle a situation that one is entitled to face in life. I am stressing the need to pay attention to negativity. This is because the negative actions teaches the most important lessons in life and one can never forget them. But it doesn’t mean we need to be negative. Being negative is worse but being aware of negatives is good. Plus and minus makes zero in maths but a hero in life.

As a child, we tend to learn from our mistakes. We learn to walk when we fail to balance ourselves. No one told us falling down when you try to walk as a mistake. Falling down while trying to walk didn’t stop us from not trying. Why?

“None told us it a mistake, none scolded us for it, none made us feel inferior, or maybe just because we didn’t understand enough of what people said when we fell down.”

As we grow up, we start to understand things, we start to hear people constantly telling about success and hailing successful persons. Somehow our mind is tuned to one word Success and it’s not getting prepared for anything else that comes its way other than success.

Remember, the value of light is not known unless you experience darkness.

Failures happen in life. It’s a very normal everyday happening. You keep alarm at 6 and end up waking at 6.30, it’s a failure. The problem is the way we were taught to see it as a negative thing. When someone fails, make him believe in himself that he can win again. Normally our surroundings make a person think if you have done the other way, you would have succeeded. Crap. May be he would have failed the other way.  

Negativity isn’t bad. It’s just another face of life.

The main glitch is that one will have an optimistic approach towards life. One will be comfortable seeing the positive aspects of life. At times, one may get reluctant to face struggles which will make one repent their actions. When some adverse situations occur, one will not be able to persevere the pain and learn from it. One will get blurred by the praise of the positive actions and cannot be able to see how to solve the problem. This will hinder the problem solving ability which is nothing but one of the entities of the learning process.

One cannot be completely optimistic or pessimistic towards life. One must focus on the mistakes or negative actions of an individual more than praising them for the positive actions. Prepare your mind for anything that comes up. Accept failures. Let it not drown you. There is no success and failure based on the results of your action. Its based on the happiness you get.

Know the failure. Accept it. Deal with it. 

Catching up with my friend

My Pen

On a chill monday morning, lazy to get up from the bed, feeling tired from the long gone weekend, looking at the cloudy sky, feeling like one more day of rest would solve all problems of your life, there comes an old long forgotten friend back to you with a coffee mug with right mix of sweetness in his smile.

Imagine yourself, he is just holding your hands, lets talk.. 

With some melodious music running in the background, here i am with my very old friend. Sitting by our balcony, we start to chat. 

Damn he has changed a lot, from the times when i used one hand and three fingers to hold him to the ten finger and 101 keys on the keyboard. yes, he is my good old gone friend my writing. its nice to get him back. No, he got me back from the never settling new feed scrolls of Facebook and the instant stories of Instagram. 

I miss him, He made me speak to myself. he made me speak my heart out. he made me do things which i didn't know i could do.So its good to have him back.

So, what do we talk about? Maybe we talk about how i lost him. 

I was a young teenager and as it sounds i was so energetic and enthusiastic in whatever i did. Thanks to Sivakasi and Sithurajapuram municipality for not having proper broadband connections. I never watched a TV series until last year. I never watched Youtube when i was a teenager. i never even know the word social media when i stepped into my bachelors. I must thank my college Mepco Schlenk Engineering College for not allowing mobiles and social networking sites in college campus. Now i wish i could turn off my WiFi. 

As usual i got addicted to social media sites when i got into college even though college had restrictions and my snail paced Internet. But i wasn't struck with it. 

I used to write Tamil poems short stories and some motivational quotes. Most of my friends know me by my DV's morning messages. I write poems and post it in Facebook. Not to get more likes or earn more friends but i felt it as a place where i can showcase my feelings and get it reflected through people. i never really cared who are gonna read it or whether i am writing a good English or whether my words are placed in proper way. I just wrote and they just reflected my feelings and i felt good. 

But after accomplishing my bachelor degree, i chose to pursue my higher studies in Germany  A new land , a new language, new people, new food, new climate, enormous amount of knowledge. The later part is as dangerous as it sounds. After coming to Germany  initially i was the same energetic enthusiastic social person who i used to be. i was excited in doing small small things and i felt so good about it. Writing about each new experience i had in Germany was a pleasure. But in the mean time, i was being judgmental on myself in order not to be judgmental on others. I started to think maybe i am just foolish and childish to do all these things very socially. I mistook expressing feelings in words to the world is childish. and that i need to GROW UP... 

Experiences, so many different background people, new culture  new language baffled me and made me doubt myself. when i try to write, i started feeling maybe this is simple and maybe this isn't right, maybe people have other perspectives, maybe i am not thinking that way and in the end, i am left with a blank word document or unfilled fresh paper smelling diaries. 

Its sad. i simply couldn't write Even as i write this, so many things going on in my mind, whether will it mean anything to people? whether people are interested to read such a long post about my feelings? Does it gonna bring anything to them? to the society?

but i dont wanna end up again with an empty post. 

Its one of my initiative to bring back the old me. I see more of my friends are suffering from just sticking to scrolling newsfeeds in facebook and just doing less of what they really wanna do. I top the list of those people. Thanks that i got my friend back today. i would try to stick to him.

There are such friends for everyone in their life. Call them back. Spend time with them. be it cooking, going out on a bike ride, drawing, photography, travel, dance, singing. Call your friend back. Stick to them. Express your feelings and not be hindered by the judgmental critics about what you wanna do. The more and more you spend time on newsfeeds, you are increasing the input to your brain and you are giving it less time to process them. Take what you need and spend time with it. Life is just spending time on what you like. Dont let the artificial intelligence and machine learning algorithms hide your friends from you. 

More to come in a while since i patched up with my old friend. I would be so glad to receive your experience with social media and your old friends. Take you time to catch up with that old friend. 

My pen

Autmn Leaf Speaks !

Autumn speaks !!

Autumn is beautiful. For some, its a little respite from scorching sun, for some, its time to click their cameras to get the beauty of dying nature in their laptop screens and for some like me, its a dying phase of life where i have to sacrifice myself to make my species sustain the forthcoming winter.
Yes, me and the colourful leaves that you see during the autumn are dying just to make sure the tree survives the winter. Its such a wonder that nature shows that things get beautiful while sacrificing even though they had to sacrifice their lives.

The interesting thing that strikes me is you people are so like me. When we are small as a kid, we get the attraction of people pinching us, plucking our cheeks, playing with us, we get a lot of attention. And also we are not the monotonous green leaves in a brown tree when we just sprouted. We have our own unique taste, smell, colour, texture and own path of growing. We are so tangible and fragile and so is a human child treated.

Once we grow up, there are many like us and we get to lose attention from others and we are one among the other green leaves in the tree, sometimes freely floating in air enjoying the privilege of being in the top, sometimes shaded by some other big leaves and we had to fight to get some sunshine on us to contribute on our part to our producers. This is the phase where we are healthy, prosperous, active, running and working all the time but none will notice us or wonder how great we are working. The normal grown up not bed wetting phase.

And then comes the autumn. Its time to prepare our producers for the next winter. we cant take food for us anymore but we had to leave it to the stem so that they can produce more leaves after winter. So, we had to pay the price and lose our self. We had to lose our colour, texture, smell, freshness yet for everyone we will be beautiful so are most people in their last bed. Everyone wonders and praises how great you are when you are dying and you get the attention again when you really want just to
leave the tree and fly freely.

But this attention is only till you remain in your last bed holding on to your last breathe. the moment you fall down, you are no more to the world. None clicks pictures of you, none watches their feet when they walk over you or feel sorry when they stamp on you. its just my time is over. But I am not. My sacrifices are not wasted. They will help my tree survive the winter and sprout again in summer and again i come and live and sacrifice as a colourful autumn leaf !

Nature is the meaning of our existence. Sometimes we feel that we exist in wrong place, we made wrong choices, but existence is existence and choices are choices.... Love, Affection, Care, Sacrifice are all a part of existence.. Instead of fighting it, live with it to end you life one day so like me as a colourful autumn leaf !

கண்ணாடி முன்

காலை எழுந்து கடவுளாய் தாயை தந்தையை வணங்கியவனை கண்டேன்...

பக்கத்துக்கு வீட்டில் சின்ன குழைந்தை கண்டு சிரித்தவனை கண்டேன்...

பசி என்று ஏங்கி வாசலில் நிற்பவனின் பசி போக்கியவனை
கண்டேன்

நடு ரோட்டில் கிடக்கும் கண்ணாடி துண்டுகளை அப்புறப்படுத்தியவனை
கண்டேன்...

சக ஊழியர் சோகம் கேட்டு ஆறுதல் கூறி அரவனைத்தவனை
கண்டேன்...

வீட்டை சுற்றி மரம் வளர்த்து பாசத்தோடு தண்ணீர் ஊற்றியவனை
கண்டேன்..

அதிகம் ஆசையின்றி ஆத்திரமின்றி ஆணவமின்றி
அதிகம் அன்பும் அரவணைப்பும் அமைதியும் கொண்டவனை
கண்டேன்...

அவனை கண்டு அனைவரும் அவ்வாறே வாழ்வதை கண்டேன்...

சட்டென்று விளித்துக்கொண்டேன்..
கனவென அறிந்து 

“இப்படி பட்ட மனிதரெல்லாம் கனவில் தான் வாழ்வார்கள்
என்று சொல்லி கொள்கின்றேன்
கண்ணாடி முன் நின்று முகம் பார்த்துக்கொண்டே !!”

அன்பு அமைதி அரவணைப்பு அறிவு
இவை யாவும் கனவில் அன்றி
தன்னில் தான் இருக்கிறது !!

Driving !!

Driving and Life are inseverable entities...

We take birth and its the dawning of a new journey ahead.

We have to equip ourselves with the needed things to travel this path of life.
And this is similar to buying a vehicle for our journey. we need to assay our potential and our need. we have to choose a bike which elicits our potential to the fullest and assists us in achieving our need.

Once we are done with equipping ourselves , we need to balance ourselves with what we have
This is like learning to ride the bike which we can have it like learning to educe our capabilities yet not sacrificing our potential

All set for a start !!
Life is full of ups and downs. we cant drive at the same speed. sometimes we have to slacken our speed and some times we have to hasten up to keep our balance and to keep progressing
We must be aware of when to slow down and when to hasten up
Any ambiguity in slowing down and hastening up will result in hopeless adversities

Be Vigilant
Driving isn,t an easy task and so is life...but it isn't a difficult task either unless we know what we have to pay attention
We have to remember our destination , our goals , ambition of our journey ,
We have to remember our Starting point
We have to be aware of the fuel , our potential
We have to be aware of the surroundings and its effects on us
We have to be aware of others who are driving their life.

Harry noises !!!
When we drive we have to adjust ourselves with whatever that travels in our path of life.we have to look forward ,look beyond ,look on both sides, and sometimes even we have to look within ourselves
There may be many horns around us which may force us to hasten up at times. we have to decide based on our potential and our path of life. we shouldn't surrender ourselves to others' commotion.

Willing to Endure !!
No matter how many miles we have traveled or how much experience we might have gained travelling so far we may fall at times and our journey may be hindered . but that is not our destination. We will know when we reach our final destination .Till then no matter how many times we fall ,just get up and travel again.We wont know in what way our odyssey of life will amuse us. Keep Moving with endurance

Enjoy Your Drive!!!
Our drive can be fostered if we don't forget the things that makes us forget that we are driving. which helps us to repose our pain of driving . and we should never get entangled in the tranquilizes that we end up in a mess.

This is what i learnt through Driving... i hope i am a perfect driver and i drive with fullest enjoyment and hope everyone thinks they are a perfect driver :)

Drive you life :) like driving :)

interview in my view

Interview in my view

Interview, as Wiki discloses is nothing but a conversation between two people. Yet we normally don’t see it that way. We used to envision it as a “Do or Die” situation which is inevitable. Some people think it’s a death when they couldn’t make it. It’s neither an act of winning or losing. It’s an act of marketing yourself or exhibiting your worth to a stranger.

Everyone will have to undertake an interview in their life time. Maybe it serves different purpose in everyone’s life. A business man who is looking forward towards a deal must talk to his dealers who are strangers to him. A teacher has to face the queries of the students at any time. A salesman has to sell the products to meet his target so that he gets paid.

What it needs to succeed in an interview?

I can explain it relating to a salesman. You are the salesman and your customer is your HR and the product you have is your profile. Now you can envisage the interview process. HR needs a candidate and same like that customer needs a product and you have to persuade the customer to buy it. The same thing we have to do in the interview.

Have you ever seen a salesman who is nervous while explaining things about his products? Have you seen a salesman stammer when he talks about the specification of his product? Have you ever seen a salesman who ends his day’s walk when he heard a ‘no’ from his first customer?
Obviously “NO”. Wonder why??!!

That person has a thorough knowledge of what his product is and what he wants. He doesn’t have too much thinking over whether we buy the product or not. Same case with our interviews. The thinking that it’s a selection process will cause much nervousness. Our mind is like a RAM memory in the CPU. When you dump your mind with some thoughts you don’t find memory to process the information.

So this is what I believe will help in an interview

Know Yourself

This is the most paramount step one has to do before appearing for an interview. As the name says its an ” inter view ” —looking into yourself. Have a thorough knowledge of who you are? What you want? What you have done? What will you be after few years?

Just know about yourself and when you are thorough about yourself you can be very confident because he is going to ask about what you know so when you know what you know u can be very cool during the 

interview

Don’t be job driven

This is another important aspect. We must stop mulling over the aftermath of an interview. At the least you may get the job or you won’t and that doesn’t determine your life. When you stop contemplating about attracting the HR or about the questions you may even forget the known answers .when a question is asked say what you know. If u think like ”which answer will he find it correct? Which answer he is expecting? “ automatically you will start to stammer because you cannot process everything at that time. So don’t enter into interview with a mind to get the job. You go and exhibit yourself.

Stay Calm with your attitude

As the famous proverb depicts “Haste makes Waste” , don’t get tensed. When you know about yourself thoroughly then you will never get panicked.

After all it’s a conversation. When you don’t get through it , it doesn’t mean losing. We all will definitely get disappointed when we fail in the first try or in the consequent attempts. But what matters most is that how you utilize the failure , how you get boosted up from failures. We all know that without losing motivation one can succeed  in life but how many of us are like that? Doesn’t it look ugly when you know what will make you happy but you won’t do it??

When you know about yourself and when you create yourself to be what kind of person you want to be . you will succeed amidst any obstacles.

BElieve in YOU

ALL THE BEST J

in a relationship again

In a Relationship again....

It’s not with a woman....but with my ever best friends...Pen and Paper...

Back to writing (typing to be precise)

Somehow i started to write again...maybe because I wanted to improve my writing skills…may be I wanted to improve my vocabulary....maybe I wanted to proffer something for my friends to laugh at and make fun of….maybe I was so stupid thinking that somewhere somehow someone will find this thing so interesting… which is preposterous….yet I don’t want to stop myself…I know I need it….and I will never let anyone stop myself except me

Writing doesn’t mean imparting perfect vocabulary at appropriate places and making incorrigible sentences which following an adroit style .Its simply the alphabets which are jumbled and that is made by the flow of ink from the pen…Its very simple…Everyone can write…no matter how expertise you are…you can hold a pen and write…you must feel blessed for that

And why is this writing so important to talk or write about…Let me take you to the age at which u couldn’t stop wetting our bed, age at which you couldn’t sleep without a cry, age at which you start to make sense of what’s going on around you….u were puerile….It was then you started holding the pen of your dad like a hammer and started scribbling something that were more like pastiches from Leonardo to your parents…

That’s when this writing get hold on you…and you would have probably taken eight months or more to learn the alphabets…. Yet you could remember them for lifetime but you couldn’t even remember a concept you studied two years back…we might have wondered why it happens?? Its obvious that young mind is getting everything fresh and it was the childishness in us that we have killed a long before and now that makes us demur for the things we lose in life…

From that puerile age you grew into an adult and so as your thoughts…But when you were a child you don’t know what you had in your mind but you were able to expose it with your hands and pen…but now you are grown and your thoughts was no need to say just grown into a mammoth…but you still find that these cumbersome thoughts were actually squabbling in your mind and not allowing you to work in your way…and that’s because you did not expose your thoughts… you were afraid to do so… afraid of what others will say.. how others will see me… the impervious intrusion of the term “Others” has made u in solitude with hefty of thoughts lingering in your mind…

How else can you expose?? Write…that’s the best way to keep your mind free amidst the intrusion of others… Write whatever you feel…. As a child you remember the alphabets now and you can even write it with your eyes closed.. How is it possible? Because you see those letters daily and you write them daily and that’s why u dint forget them…The same way…You have more thoughts , aims , plans, Write them…if u feel bad write….you will indubitably feel that you had the reason why you were feeling bad…

Write your goals often that your mind is carved with these thoughts and the power of thoughts is that it will never concede without finishing it… Writing will never only improve your style and focus on your life..it will give yourself a companion (Yourself) one we always forget to see…You are the best companion of yours…and you could talk to him only with Writings….

So Write!!!!!! 

இறந்தும் காண்பிர் இம் மண்ணை...

*முகத்தில் இருக்கும்

பொய் மனக்காதமெய் மலருக்கு மரண தண்டனையா??

வேண்டாம்!! வேண்டாம்!!

மறு வாழ்வு கொடுப்போம்!!

*நம் உலகில் மறைந்த சூரியனை

விழி அற்றோரின் உலகிற்கு அனுப்பி

ந்ற்பொழுதை விடியச் செய்து

சூரிய உதயத்தை காட்டுவோம்!!



*கல்விக் கண் திறந்து கர்ம வீரர்

ஆனர் காமராசர்

நாம் ஏன் சிலரின் கண் திறந்து

ஒரு கர்ம வீரன் ஆக கூடாது??..


* உடல் சாய்ந்துவிடலாம்

உயிர் பிரிந்துபோகலாம்

விழிகள் என்னும் படை திரட்டி

போரிடுவோம்...

இறந்தும் வெற்றி சூடுவோம்


*இயற்க்கை அண்ணை பூமியின் உயிர் மூச்சயும்

வானாத்தின் கண்ணீரையும் தந்து

விழி அற்றோருக்கு இவ்வுலகை உணர்த்துகிராள்..

அவள் வயிற்றில் பிரந்த நாம் ஏன் நம் விழி தந்து

அவர்களை அவர்களுக்கு காட்டக் கூடாது..??



*நம் இமைகள் ஒய்வு பெற்றாலும்

நம் கண்களை காக்க

காத்துக் கொண்டிருக்கிறது

பலரின் இமைகள்..



*வாழ்வில் அம்மவை கூட காணாமல்

வாழ்வே அம்மவசையாய் இருப்பவர்களுக்கு

பௌர்ணமியை கட்டுவோம்!!!



*சிலரின் முகத்தில் பூக்கள் மலரவில்லை

அதை கண்டு அதற்கு தண்ணீர் உற்ற

கண்ணீர் விட்டது என் முக மலர்

வற்றியது என் கண்ணீர்

மலரவில்லை அம்மலர்கள்..

என் உடல் விழுந்த பின்

விழும் என் முக மலர் அவர்கள் முகத்தில்

மலரும் அவர்கள் வாழ்வுஒளி மயத்தில்





தானம் செய்வீர் நும் கண்ணை

இறந்தும் காண்பிர் இம் மண்ணை...

 

தமிழ் மூச்சு

உதட்டின் முதல் ஸ்ருதி...
அம்மா

ஸ்ருதிகள் பல கற்று
வார்த்தைகள் பல பயின்று
மொழிகள் பல மொழிந்து...
"அம்மா"வின் அருமையை
அந்த சொல்லோடு மறக்கும்
குழந்தை...
வளர்கிறது ஆங்கிலத்தின் அறிவியலில்..
தேய்கிறது அன்பான பண்புகள்..
இழக்கிறது அழகான கலாச்சாரத்தை..
தொலைக்கிறது அமைதியான வாழ்வை...

எண்ணி வியந்து
தமிழை காக்க
கவிதை எழுத
வெட்க்கப்படுகிறேன்...

தமிழாகிய மூச்சை சுவாசிக்க
மறந்ததால்...
வாழ்கிறோம்
நன்றி கெட்டு..
சூழ்ச்சி தொட்டு..
சுகம் தொலைத்து..
சோகம் தொட்டு
நடை பிணமாய்...

நாம் பெருமையுடன் சுவாசிக்க கூடிய
தமிழ் மூச்சு
இன்று பெருமைகொள்ளும் அருங்காட்சியகத்தின்
முக்கிய பேச்சு...

கருணைக் கண்கள் கலங்காதா???

உழைக்கும் கரங்கள் உள்ளது முழுமையாய்..
உதவும் உன் வளைந்த கரங்களிடம் 
தோற்றுவிட்டேன்...
வசை பாடும் உதடுகள் உள்ளது உன்னதமாய்..
இசை மெட்டும் உன் பாதித்த உதட்டின் சிரிப்பில்
தோற்றுவிட்டேன்...

உடலில் ஊனத்துடன் முழுமையான
வாழ்க்கை வாழ்கிறாய்..
மனதில் ஊனத்துடன் நாங்கள் என்று
குணமடையப்போகிறோம்???

வாழ்வின் அர்த்தம் சிந்தும் உன் சிரிப்பிற்கு
கருணைக் கண்கள் கலங்காதா??

future present past

Dont be the drop fallin on land...
Be the drop that makes the ocean..

Dont be the boat moves n river direction
Be the ship that moves against the waves?

Dont be the meaningless words in fame novels
Be the meaningful word in pocket dictionarty

Dont be an idle stone in path..
Be the stone that makes statues..

Dont be the beauty star
Be the brightening moon..

atlast bt the utmost

DONT BE THE PRISONER OF THE PAST..
DONT BE THE EMPEROR OF THE FUTURE..
BE THE CITIZEN OF PRESENT...

LIVE THIS SECOND..

love life

there is many winners who hav success secrets...
there is many books which hav best advices..
there is many people who hav best minds....
there is many losers who hav best reasons...
but none can make u happy or make u win....
only u can make you happy or make u win...
no use of hearin people's advices nor analysin other's failures...
stop and start analysin and advisin urself...
u"ll b t best wit ur life...
luv urself live urself...

be yourself

Dont get involved into others too much....
be unique...
be strong...
be alone...
believe urself
be urself....
you be the creator of your own destiny...
none can define ur life better than you..
this second is GONE!!
make the next as BEST
happiness always:)

happiness

take time in living ur life
than defining ur life....

happiness is not in what u want...
its in what u have...

all u need is to jus feeel it...njoy it...
.

சிரிப்பு

இதழ் விரித்த தாமரை பூவாய்
கண் திறக்கும் குழந்தையின் உதட்டில்

நள்ளிரவில் பிறை சூடும் நிலவாய்
பிள்ளை பெரும் அன்னையின் உதட்டில்

பிள்ளை தவளும்போது சிதறும் மொட்டாய்
தோளில் ஏந்தும் தந்தையின் உதட்டில்

கரு வானில் வெள்ளை அரிவாளாய்
காதல் கவிதையாய் பெண்ணின் உதட்டில்

அந்தக் காதல் கவிதையை படித்து
அதற்கு இசையாய் இளைஞனின் உதட்டில்

தண்ணீர் காணாத பாலைவன வானவில்லாய்
பணம் காணாத ஏழையின் உதட்டில்

கண்ணீர் பிரார்த்தனைகளுக்கு பதிலாய்
என்றும் புண்ணியமாய் கடவுளின் உதட்டில்

மனிதில் வரலாம் கலங்கம்
கண்ணில் வரலாம் கண்ணீர்
இதயத்தில் வரலாம் கோபம்
உதட்டிலோ சிரிப்பு மட்டும்...

உலகத்தின் பூமாலையாய்
கல்லறையிலும் கருத்தரிக்கும்
கவிதையாய் கணிவது
சிரிப்பு மட்டுமே!!!